Being reasonable can be defined as being rational, having sound judgement and using logic to make good decisions. Most of us, apply our common sense to make good logical decisions and this has served us well. We are creatures of reason, every choice we make is thought through and weighed up dependant on the information available, whether it’s choosing what you want for lunch or buying a new car, the process is the same. But as for our emotional and mental states, reason doesn’t always serve us well. We have a tendency to remember and actively collect evidence that damages us emotionally and mentally. We all remember the criticism and harsh words but rarely the praise. It is completely reasonable to then make judgements about ourselves based on this skewed view of the world. You might tell yourself – I’m annoying – because once or twice you have spoken for longer than your audience wanted to listen. Or maybe, like me, you feel – people don’t want to hear what I have to say – because people have a tendency to talk over you. (which is easily avoided if you just write a blog instead, I’ll assume you heard me). These beliefs have been created using reason and once we have created a disempowering belief, we will hunt out more evidence to support it, until we are absolutely sure, all the horrible things people say about us is true and our worst fears have been realised! Or? We can start to disassemble those unhealthy beliefs by challenging them and start building new more empowering beliefs, even if it’s based on no evidence at all! Start today, take an old unhealthy belief and transform it into a new more empowering one. Say you felt you lacked confidence and through the use of reason, you have built up plenty of evidence to back this up: I get nervous when I speak in front of people, I’m socially awkward, People don’t like me. Let’s turn these negative thoughts into positive ones. I’m confident, people like me, I feel comfortable around people. Imagine how a confident person behaves, if you know someone who exudes confidence mirror their body language, attitude, speech patterns (not actual voice though, that comes with a whole lot of problems you don’t want and if you know me, you’ll know I’m talking from experience). Try it on for size and make it your own. Challenge the old belief, ware it down with all the confidence you can muster. Absolutely fake it, till you make it. You don’t need real experience to change how you feel about yourself, you can just decide that I’m different from yesterday, no explanation necessary. If you can imagine feeling or behaving differently then that’s enough. Your unconscious brain can’t tell the difference between real or imagined experiences anyway. So routinely imagining your new self is powerful enough to make real change. So I am urging you to be unreasonable. Don’t be ruled by reason. I don’t mean give in to the selfish urges to say what you want, when you want and abandon your compassion for your fellow man. Although, I have noticed this approach to life has been working for some of you, and on behalf of all humans everywhere (yes, we got together and no, you were not invited) cut that s#*# out! I’m trying to reclaim the word ‘unreasonable’ and reimagine it as a word that means to make decisions about ourselves, not based on any logic or rational evidence. How freeing would it be to decide we are beautiful, amazing, unstoppable, confident beings, not because we have proven ourselves to be this, but just because we know that’s who we really are. So who are you really?